The Importance of Having a “Person” on Your Wedding Day!
Wedding Wednesday
The more weddings I do, the more I realize this is a wide spread thing that maybe more upcoming brides should be educated about! I wouldn’t say it’s an “issue”, but I can say that having a designated “person” for all the little things on your wedding day makes it SO much easier…ON EVERYONE!! Let me explain WHY!
So you’re planning your big day, its right around the corner and you are now wondering if you forgot anything…..well I hate to break it to you but you probably are! It’s totally normal for a bride to forget something and that’s OK! Your friends, family and wedding team will make sure that they have everything covered that they possibly can so that your day goes as smoothly as possible! However, if you are like me and planned a lot of your wedding, something is bound to slip through the cracks and you’re going to need help!!!!
I will 100% ALWAYS recommend a wedding planner when brides ask. They are God sent. Their job is to make sure the day stays flowing like its supposed to, put out any little mishaps that arise and make sure vendors are there on time. BUT ( If I could make that BIGGER than capital I WOULD because this is so important!!!!) they CAN’T be the ones running around doing little things that some else can do! Like running to the store to grab more OJ for brunch….or maybe the groom forgot his tie at the Air BNB and you need someone to go grab it….or knowing all the family members names so its easier to gather for family formals! The list could go ON AND ON!
Unless you are working with a high scale planning team with multiple staff members for each job, a lot of these random little tasks are on you.
My advise to you? Have a PERSON!
Ya know, just like on Grey’s Anatomy. Christina is Meredith’s “person” because she can always count on her!
Some tips I would suggest when deciding on what “person” you should designate for your wedding day would be:
It doesn’t have to be a family member, but it would probably be easier if so!
You just want to make sure this person knows who your family members are! THIS IS HUGE! I can’t tell you how many times with being the photographer, family formals roll around after the ceremony and nobody is gathering family, they are all at cocktail hour, and we lose so much time for bride and groom portraits because it’s all spent finding someone that knows the family members that is on the list and gathering them! NO bride wants that on her wedding day! It’s SO chaotic!!!! So having someone that already knows who to gather and who to have stay after the ceremony for family formals makes the day run SO much smoother! The photographer walks back to the ceremony site to see everyone already there and ready for photos! It’s a dream!!
PS - and your photographer will thank you FOREVER! :)
Make sure this person has important peoples phone numbers! If it’s not family, make sure they have at least the MOB + MOG, or even the best man, and maid of honor’s phone numbers in case anyone needs to be reached for anything!
They need to be responsible + reliable!
I’ve seen so many weddings recently where the bride didn’t have a PERSON beyond her planner, and here are some examples of what has happened….
Groom and groomsmen was almost to the venue, there was no “getting ready” spot at this venue so they had to wait in the lobby for the ceremony to start. But the limo driver wasn’t sure where to let them out at because of a miscommunication. I had the bridesmaids out doing photos as they are pulling up. Thankfully we realized what was happening before the groom seen the bride and got it all figured out….but having a PERSON for the limo driver to call for clarification would have been great!!
Someone left the garter at the hotel and mom had to rush back to get it and missed all of the bridesmaids praying before the ceremony…having a PERSON that could have run to get that would be ideal.
Being ready to go photograph family formals and nobody has gathered family, and they are all at cocktail hour. The planner doesn’t know who your family members are just as much as the next vendor….having a PERSON that knows who is on the list and who to grab saves so much time, and less stress on the couple!
If these brides had had a “person” who was willing and ready to run errands, pick up any slack and help with whatever needed to be done, it would have DRASTICALLY lowered the stress load on the couples that day.
So if your planning a wedding and you already have a planner, I still encourage you to designate a “person” of your own who you can really count on in case of an emergency! For my own wedding we had our own “people” that offered to help with different things like brunch buyers, program distributors and favor makers! The list can go on and on with things that you can find helpers for to make your day easier for you!
Happy “person” finding!!!! Trust me, your future self (and wedding vendors) will THANK YOU! :)
Thanks for reading,
XOXO, Sam